Paul Nijar

Spiritual Insights on Your Everyday Troubles

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How to Remove Your Masks

We all play different roles in our lives that may change from moment to moment. Each role depicts an emotional state we may be feeling at the time. Although this may seem like the traits of a hormonal pregnant woman, it can happen to anyone of us. This may be a problem for those who don’t like showing their emotions. Being transparent with what we are feeling makes us feel vulnerable. Vulnerability makes us feel insecure and fearful of people discovering our truth. In an attempt to hide our true feelings, we put on an act.

I hate two-faced people. It’s so hard to decide which face to slap first.

Sometimes the emotions we present are actually just covers for what we are really feeling. It’s our ego that goes into full gear in order to protect us from being authentic. We wear masks to hide from our truth. The roles we play are based on a persona we want others to see in us. Did you know that the word persona comes from the Greek word prosōpon that refers to a character in theatrical performance?

Life is one big stage act and we are playing the greatest role of our lives.

This makes it very difficult to read into people’s true intentions. We never know who is actually in front of us. Is it the actor or the real thing? Each moment of our lives can call for a different emotional state to protect us from being hurt in some way. This demands for a certain character or persona to come in to protect our secrets from being revealed.

“My walls went up, as my confidence went down.”

There’s 1 underlying reason for all the masks. Upon layers and layers of emotional baggage this 1 truth that once tended to will remove the needs for the multitude of masks. “What is it?! Out with it!” It’s the lack of self-love. If you don’t love you, who else will?   

“We wear masks that protect us from being hurt. And sometimes these masks, are tools we use to hurt people…”

Whatever role we play, it’s a mask to hide the fact that we can’t face our own selves. Whether we are playing the role of the intellect, the mad one, or the sad one, we are trying to hide something unrelated to what we are presenting. For example, when someone is constantly pointing their fingers at someone, they are diverting attention for their own insecurities.

“Sometimes our thoughts are backed by so much insecurities that they create lies we believe.”

When we’re insecure we are fearful of something. This fear is an indictor of the lack of self-love. How did I make that connection you ask? Well, what’s the opposite of love? It’s not hate. It’s fear! Fear is the number one killer for many things. Whether it’s regarding dreams and ambitions, or allowing others to see our true selves, it blocks us from being our greatest version of ourselves.

Insecurities are loud. Confidence is silent.

Much like when we watch a movie, we become emotionally involved with the characters, the same occurs when someone is presenting us with their masks. These masks can sometimes mislead us into thinking that the issue is ours. As these characters point their fingers at us, they do so in an attempt to make us feel the pain they feel within. The greatest illusion of one’s strength, is by diverting attention from themselves and onto others. This will give them a false sense of confidence.

Misery loves company.

An insecure person can’t stand being alone. They need an army of people that also feel as bad as they do. These people are great magicians because they can make you believe that the issues they have are actually yours! We may feel that they are reflecting characteristics we need to work on our own selves, in fact, they are theirs alone.

“We create masks to meet the masks of others. Then we wonder why we cannot love and why we feel so alone.” – Brenda Shoshanna

Challenge yourself every day to be vulnerable by removing your masks. Make a list of the things you feel insecure about or things that you may resent about yourself. Study this list and see how even people you are inspired by may have these similar issues. We all share the same insecurities. Some people just have the volume turned up more than others. Embrace every part of you and discover self-love.

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