Paul Nijar

Spiritual Insights on Your Everyday Troubles

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Why Your Orgasms Are Ruining Your Relationships!

How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Roll Pop?

This is an old slogan used in the Tootsie Roll Pop commercials.  There’d be someone trying to resist the urge to bite down on the candy to taste the Tootsie Roll in the center.  It’s funny because this is the same thinking guys have during sex.

Nobody wants a one minute man!  Continue reading

relationship / sex

How to Overcome Bedroom Shyness

“My wife has been playing hiding and go seek with her body for over a year.  Sounds fun right?! Not!!  I’ve yet to find her body!”

This game of hide and go seek is a game that many couples are failing to win at.  It becomes an on-going game that leads to a sexless marriage.  Despite having been with their partner for years, this does nothing to solve the shyness of being naked in front of each other.  Instead, they will tip-toe around each other trying to conceal themselves from prying eyes. Continue reading

love / relationship

How to Defeat Your Unfaithful Desires

“How do I stop thinking about other girls when I’m in a relationship?”

This is a question I’ve been asked many times. A great number of people have lost the potential of having lasting relationships due to their infidelities or their desire to be with other people. As they come in and out of different relationships, they wonder if they are stuck in a never-ending cycle of relationships that just don’t work. So what’s the diagnosis?

Sounds like you’ve got a case of “wondering eyes syndrome.” Continue reading


Sex! Foreplay! And Afterplay!!

One of the greatest moments to share with someone is spent during sex. It is such a divine act that brings such great awakenings. Our entire emotional and mental state shifts upon having sex. The person you were prior to sex, to the person you are afterwards is totally different. Many of us fail to make a successful transition and end up falling back on old behaviours.

“Are you saying sex causes an identity crisis?”

The crisis with the identity that we carry during this time is that we are failing to evolve as an individual and as a spiritual energy. The reason for this is because many of us are missing out on the most important part of making love.

The goal should not be to try to make your partner hit that “high note!” Continue reading